Let’s Talk About: Turning 30

Well I never thought I’d get there, but somehow it looks like it’s about to happen, I’m about to turn 30. Throughout most of my 20s I never thought it would happen, like I was a super human who would be young forever. When you’re in your teens or early twenties you think 30 is old, past it, over the hill but now I’m nearly there I’ve realised none of that is true. Of course it depends on what type of 30 year old you speak to but I honestly still think and feel 21…such a cliché! I always want to go to an afterparty and I’m still the last one standing/ leaning/ hanging on for dear life.

Most of my 20s have been spent working really hard to make sure that when I hit 30 I would feel satisfied with what I had achieved. I didn’t want to get to the milestone and feel like I’d not used my youthful time properly. I wanted to carve out a career for myself, buy a house, party, travel and make great friends. I also thought I might have been settled down and married by now but that hasn’t happened and that’s probably because I don’t feel old enough to do it yet!

It’s a really interesting milestone because things to start change and you might start to feel like you’re getting left behind. Your Facebook and Instagram feed is full of people getting married and having babies. Your diary is full of hen and stag do’s and your bank balance is ever decreasing because you’re forking out on bloody weddings.  A lot of people panic thinking that they should be doing the same, but actually you shouldn’t be worrying at all. You don’t need to be a sheep and follow their lead. If you were supposed to have done it by now you would have.

When I was turning 26 I wrote a blog about it, apparently I was having a quarter life crisis, I mean what was I thinking?! What a dick! READ IT HERE. I look back and can’t believe I was worried about it, but young adults put SO much pressure on themselves to ACHIEVE that it can stop them from enjoying the moment. We see getting older as a bad thing when actually it’s a great thing! We’re wiser, we hang around with friends we actually like and we know who we are. We know what we like and what we don’t like and if we don’t want to do something then we don’t do it. Your 20s are all about working out who you are and what you want out of life, I feel like your 30s are the time to make a real difference, whether that’s in your career, personal life or both.

Remember when Rachel turned 30 in Friends and we all thought that was really old?

On 10th May (don’t forget to send me some cash in a card!) I will be turning 30 and I’ve finally accepted it. I’ve been dreading it for months but now I’m ok with it. I’ve really noticed, as I’ve been getting older that I’ve stopped caring so much. Not about serious things, but silly stuff like my weight or what people think of me. I still need to get round to reading the book ‘the subtle art of not giving a fuck’, but I think I do it already, stop caring so much, it’s draining!

What advice would I give to a twenty something worried about turning 30?

Well cleanse, tone & moisturise obviously! And go to the gym, look after your body and it will look after you. If you’re not happy in your career path then the time to change is NOW. You still have the time and energy to become whatever you want to be. Don’t settle, whether that’s in a relationship or in a job because you will only regret it in the long run. If you’ve got negative people around you then phase them out, you don’t need dem bad vibes. And stop overthinking everything because it doesn’t get you anywhere, what will be will be.

Here’s to being 30 and fabulous… now someone pass the champagne!